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“Well, you see we’ve the thought of the candles and burning it; isn’t it. OK, what we need to do now is to have one more retreat. This retreat is for management of time energy and its management for emotional and intellectual energy. Please don’t interrupt, it’s a simple thing. Just imagine about the four candles in which only one is burning; for how long can it burn?” He asked.


“Well, you see it can burn at most for an hour, I suppose, isn’t it,” I replied.


“Yaw, you’re right. You see there’s a time limit for each burning candle, isn’t it. The duration for which it can burn is the time energy that it posses, isn’t it,” he said.


“Wow, it’s right; you see after burning for an hour it has no energy to burn, but how can we’ve more time energy, if we need,” I asked.

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“Well, it doesn’t matter, I can’t panic, I can have all other candles burning on with this one, isn’t it,” I said.


“Isn’t it amazing that you’re not sad about seeing three candles not burning, a moment ago, you were sad to imagine that two candles are burning and two aren’t burning?” He said.


“Wow, it’s an imaging idea; you see I don’t understand it. I feel that the thought of one burning candle can’t allow me to compare all of the four candles, but it’s a wonderful idea, isn’t it,” I said.


“All right, now suppose you’ve to compare it; how will do it?” He asked.

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“Hey, why are you getting angry, you’re using your thoughts like honeybees and can’t find the honey in the candles that aren’t burning? Just imagine for the sake of candles and our idea that the thoughts rob honey from our flowers of feelings on the plant of emotions, isn’t it,” he said.


“Gosh, these seem the crazy thoughts. OK, I’ve four candles in my imaginations, but these aren’t burning, what I should do, can I lit one by one or all together,” I asked.

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“No, we’ve come to the conclusive stage; we’ll retreat, while deliberating about all steps. The first retreat, well you see this retreat is simply surrender of thoughts to have a touch of common sense or wisdom, OK, just imagine you’ve the same candles, OK. The new thought with surrender is that you’ve two candles burning and other two not burning. Just remember, meanwhile that you’re recalling the same candles for a comparison, all right,” he said.


“Well, you see I can enjoy the two burning candles, while the set of two that isn’t burning seems to make me feel bit sad, isn’t it, but why” I said.

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“Well, the next step is that in your next thought you’re going to blow off the first candle that is burning,” he said.


“Gosh, I can have this thought, but you see it doesn’t look nice. Anyway, I’m blowing it off. It goes off, now I’ve one candle burning and the first one not burning, I can enjoy what I did, but not the thought that I’ve blown off one candle. It doesn’t give great charm, isn’t it,” I said.


“Well, we’ve to go to next step. Now, have a thought of blowing the second candle off as well,” he said.

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“Well, it sounds good. Let’s take an example. Suppose I’ve a thought of burning candle. How can you say that it depends on imaginations, can you tell me, please?” I asked.


“OK, let’s move ahead step by step. You’ve thought of a candle in your mind, isn’t it,” he said.


“Yaw, I’ve thought of a candle in mind, but I said it’s a thought of burning candle, you remember,” I replied.


“OK, did you light the candle on?” He asked.


“Well, no, I’ve the thought of burning candle, why do I need to lit it on, it’s already on, isn’t it,” I said.

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“Well, you see the anger is just a mood, like a strong wave in the emotional energy seeking a way-out. In other words, when a desire isn’t fulfilled anger usually follows it. It’s a call for emotional management. You know it very well that management without a supervisor and observer isn’t possible. Do you understand what I mean?” He said.


“Gosh, you see I do understand that the anger is just self-defense for the stability of our emotions. That is why we need emotional management, isn’t it so?” l replied.

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“Wow, I agree, you see even in education if we change the syllabus during the session, both the teachers and the students feel like the honeybee, which can’t find its nest. It’s amazing, I never realized that it’s not our education and knowledge that troubles, rather it is the purpose for which we gain it. If the purpose changes, we feel as if we’ve no aim and objective even though we know everything about it, isn’t it. Well, it means we don’t need to educate our self for a purpose which may change. The right way seems to accept education as food for our personal development. You see we can struggle for personal development because this purpose never changes. Isn’t it wonderful?” I said.

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“Well, you see you know it that wood can’t work as the candle does. The urges are like the signals from our body alarming us to use the compass for direction. The emotional energy needs management like other energies. What you call emotional satisfaction is the need of the body, but we can’t surrender to it without using the compass of intellect. The intellect provides the options and the choices as if offering breathing, I mean leading it beyond what we call the feelings of suffocation in which we can’t find any direction, isn’t it,” he said.

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Now, we are going to use our previous knowledge from the series and various parts of it for learning the Self-Healing. We know a lot, but usually lack practice and thus it is how we begin our next series:


The spirit of sports without practice hunts the player. Even the singer, if stops singing, the same happenings occur as it is with other educated youngsters.

Therefore, my concern was with both flowers and honey as I said it in my discussion with Monica and him.

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The philosophy engraves the thoughts and thinking processes and the patterns with such an ideology that hurries and worries cannot corrupt our mind. We seem to lack the idealism while materializing our wishes and desires.


It always makes me think of the popular saying that everything is fair in war and love. Now, both of these lack philosophy.

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“Well, you see when we work with conditions; we seem to leave so many options and choices that the addiction of routine makes us feel sick, as you said; the work alcoholic craving for some work satisfaction. It leaves no time for personal life in seems just a good dream of a film or a book. The lack of time for personal life makes it tasteless and when we interact socially, everything seems tasteless. Isn’t it?” I said.


As I proposed a question, I realized that the emotional and intellectual maturity allows more room for feelings, emotions, thoughts and ideas.

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“Well, you see the personal life is the instrument that we can play alone like making a prayer. The society this way seems the orchestra and the person in our contact sometimes doesn’t stop playing one’s instrument so that we could enjoy the social orchestra. This makes the conversation just a noise of words having no rapport and we can’t enjoy,” she said.


“How can we enjoy, when we don’t know how to feel and enjoy what we are doing?” I said smilingly.

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She said, while her eyes were not open. I wondered if closing the eyes is enough for it. I found the charm of poet’s eye that can look around, while closed. However, it was difficult to make it imprisoned so I released the words, while feelings remained in my heart because I wanted to live.


“Gosh, you see both of you seem to make the words slave of meaning, anyway I try. Our prison is for punishment and the lock outside is like a hanging message saying do not disturb me, please. Is it right?” I said to her.


“Yaw, you see you’re very close pondering about this punishment; keep trying,” she said.


She was saying it as if she is an in-charge of the prison; the bipolar jailor, who imprisons with both the caring and the guidance.

It was so awful that I could not stop or even pause my words as the reaction was from feelings not mind that can hide feelings as if a jailer.

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“Well, you see when we consider about the bio-rhythmic of our body it’s like a harmony of music where instruments aren’t present. The whole body works with synchronization and always in resonance. Isn’t it wonderful?” She said.


Her saying, while closing her eyes was clear to me that like a child imagines about many beautiful things; we, the young ones have the similar options. Her closed eyes were as if trying to listen to this music within.


I know; she listens to it. She says that if we can observe silence within, the joy of it is like listening to music. The words may create noise, but the silence is the rhythmic of all words and sounds. She says it differently, that the joy of silence with someone is the joy of presence.

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I added some common points of social importance as I was sure to find in his next few statements that we all can enjoy the self-polarization and the freedom of selflessness.


“Well, you see I’ve the same views, you know the patient would sacrifice any part of the body, while doing the best possible to save the body to live and remain normal. Well, how can we use it in the counseling?” I asked.

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“Well, you see I can comprehend your ideas, I feel that at one level these options and choices influence the children and the young people to the extent that habits and the related addictions reach the social maladjustment, where we seem to label it crime and punishment, isn’t it?” I replied.


I could feel his sensitivity about these issues.


Monica looked at me, while I glanced at her. I realized why he bothers about the big issues.

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While, it was just a blow of air, and I remembered something; I had just a thought about what we discussed last time and he could read it that my flower of thought had the fragrance of feelings.


He never misses any opportunity, when it is for the creative healing. The flying smile as if a mirror, showed its image in the words as he opened his smile to give verbal expression.

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One of the best points about Monica is that she does not order. Her discussions are rich as if it is a treasure of wisdom that she has gained from the self-felt feelings and experiences. She can wait for hours, however to keep discipline she stands up and starts to scroll around. I once asked her,


“Why do you start scrolling once you finish any discussion?”

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“Well, we look certain traits in a child and make it a case of follow up; it misses the totality that is present within the child. We do it because we can’t find the seven colors in the white. Even if a child seem to have choice for a certain color it doesn’t ensure that the choice has been made, rather we may have failed to explain the importance of other colors that the child doesn’t like. It seems funny when we compare it with music. We can’t say that one likes a part of gamut as if some colors out of seven. I find it amazing that the art of music is blend as that of the colors; isn’t it,” I said.

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“OK, you see we know the reason and causes of whatever happen to such an extent that we’re also addicted of this knowledge and want to lit the candle with knowledge alone. In our knowledge the emotional, rather the creative people can’t find feelings, the fire that may burn their candles. The joy that the compass indicate the direction is a miracle of nature not our invention. We may just show the compass to a child, and observe how it sees it and wonders about this miracle. The child is bestowed with poet’s eye, but this art isn’t of words, rather it’s of feeling. Slowly, while learning words and the meanings, we find that the metaphor is hidden in the compass only, the ship seems flying on the ocean of words without the air of feelings. The child feels that the direction isn’t important as we seek it that it should react that we should be asked for it, the wonder of direction, isn’t it,” he said.

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The magnet has two opposite poles, but it co-exits with affinity and creates the magnetic field. The iron cannot do it. However, if we align the atoms of iron in one direction the magnet is formed. The creative people can magnetize the thoughts and emotions as the poles of magnet of intelligence in this context. The wonder also lies in it that the same is true with the semiconductors, in which the insulators participate as the conductors.


Thus, they, the creative ones create literature from words, music from sounds and paintings from colors and so on that we cannot count. It was a time for me to refresh and regain the prima factor of the discussion, while making reflection as a review on a comment on what he was saying.


However, I did not need, as he proceeded with the power of resonance in his next idea.

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“All right, you see, here’s the point. He’s not overemphatic; it’s a one of the ways to draw other person’s attention with richness of concentration. This is part of counseling, I see, OK; keep going I just want to listen and will speak when I feel so,” she said.


“Well, I’ve a poem about it, and we may share it,” he said.

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“Well, I understand what you mean our positive behavior and right frame of mind is like a compass for others. We seem to teach, the compass doesn’t teach, it simply gives the direction like option. We usually believe that option and choice is the same thing. Therefore, we seem to teach how one should feel, but it doesn’t seem possible. You know, the people with same options have different feelings. Our attempt to make children feel the way others feel doesn’t seem the right way. You see we can’t imitate the feelings, but the behavior is an imitated practice of an individual. Then how can we understand the causes of delinquency and what we label as bad character?” I said.

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“Hey, are you there? Wow, you know, you’re right; I feel that we seek to see the individual behaving in a conditioned way; I mean the way we expect to see in accordance with the image we’ve formed for the person. It doesn’t allow the person to react differently. This seems suppression of creativity that we may be blocking just because we block our reactions towards an individual behaving differently at some occasions and moments; I mean the situations. If a sad person laughs, angry shows courtesy, brave cries, compassionate ignores the practice of affection, person usually showing awfulness expresses wonder, and so on, all makes us rigid emotionally as if we’re seeking no change within us, and thus among others, isn’t it,” he said.

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I knew only very little about it. The knowledge about the psychosomatic faculty goes immediately to catch these words. It was the same reaction; I was having, as he had for some terms and words in the psychology. It was going to be a turning point in the discussion.


“Well, you see the psychic center is like a meeting center for our five senses. The senses perceive and when the facts are placed on the table of psychic center, the decision is given emotionally. We may ponder for a while to have a touch from the intellect as an anchor for this emotional elephant and compass for the ship in the ocean of emotions, isn’t it?” He said.